Please Note: All the information provided here is a result of certain scientific experiments. However, if you are interested in the experiments, you could always pick up the copy of the book, “How to make anyone fall in love with you? – By Leil Lowndes” This book covers all that information.

THE EYE CONTACT!

Body language is a huge part of love. You see, scientists have studied couples in every stage of their relationship. At different stages, the couples have different body language. But, there is a definite pattern of body language that is followed by all couples. Nobody taught you this body language. You just know it. You knew it when you were born. Then the media and friends etc. confused you.

Human beings also have similar body language practices when they meet for the first time. But, the problem is most people are confused about them. Most people are not sure what they are supposed to do. They do not rely on their instincts and so they do not know what is to be done. This is what “first impressions” are all about. If you do not do the “fist impression” right, you will never be licking each other’s coats.

Here we have tried to provide you with the best way to go about your first impression.

The most important part: Eye Contact

A man may be classified as a breast man, a buttocks man, or a leg man. And, although women will insist they are not, most women are butt watchers. (This is not just a random statement: a British study determined that these are people’s favorite eyeball destinations.)

But researchers have found that EVERYBODY is an eye person.

Powerful eye contact immediately stimulates strong feelings of affection. This was proved once and for all in a study called “The Effects of Mutual Gaze on Feelings of Romantic Love.” Researchers put forty-eight men and women who didn’t know each other in a big room. They gave them instructions on how much eye contact to have with their partners during casual conversation.

Afterward, the researchers asked each participant how he or she felt about the various people they had spoken with.

GUESS WHAT?

Those couples that were instructed to have deep eye contact with one another had increased feelings of “love” towards one another than those who did not. Simply put: Deep eye contact, from the first time you talk to your partner is very important to make him/her fall in love with you.

Why does eye contact have such a strong effect? Well, it’s complicated! It has got something to do with “primal instincts” that eye contact brings about. But, that does not matter. What matters is that, if you have an intense eye contact with your partner from the very first impression, he/she is much more likely to fall in love with you.

Another reason why eye contact works according to researchers is that, eye contact is like giving a compliment.

It’s a common phenomenon that most people, like you would look at something that is beautiful. You would not look at something that is ugly. If you do see something that is ugly, you will immediately put your hands over your eyes or look away. When something is not that interesting the first thing that your boy does is look away. Your eyes are the first things to move.

So, if you want to convey, “You are interesting, you are beautiful etc…” apart from the verbal way, the best way to do it would be eye contact. You might we wondering, “He/she is not going to think so much! He/she is not going to realize that I am complimenting him/her!” Well, all this happens on sub-conscious level. You just do your part and make eye contact, the “other party” will understand!

If you get bored just looking at the eyes, explore the eyes. Look at all the little color changes that make up your partner’s eyes. Look at the designs of their eyes. Look at the reflection in their eyes etc.

Please note: Do not over do this. Look away form time to time and then make eye contact again! If you just keep looking straight without blinking, you will scare him/her.

When you are talking and making eye-contact with him/her, there is another technique also that you could use. It’s called “Sticky Eyes”! This is what you basically have to do:

Whenever you are talking to him/her, let your eyes stay glued to his or hers a little longer—“even during the silences”. When you must look away, do so reluctantly. Drag your eyes away slowly, as though they had been stuck. This will really get your partner going! Remember the key, “Maintain eye contact for some time even during silences!”

What makes your eyes sexy and inviting? Researchers say, “Large pupils”.

If you are not really sure which part of your eye is your pupil, it does not matter. It was found that the size of your pupil depends on what you are looking at. If you look at something that excites you or makes you happy, your pupil size will become large. If you are looking at something that is ugly, your pupil size will become smaller.

So, if you want to have sexy eyes with large pupils, you will have to look at something that makes you happy or excited. When talking to him/her, try to look at some part of your partner’s face that you find most beautiful. This will make your pupil increase in size and it will give sexy eyes. If you look at some part that is ugly, your pupils will become small and your eyes will become unattractive. So, try to look only at beautiful parts of you partner’s face. If you find nothing beautiful in your partners face, then you might want to look for a new partner!

All these are just the basics. You might be wondering, all this is about what you must do once you are talking to him/her. But, what is more important is, “How do I go and talk to her?” or “How do I attract his attention?” We will discuss all this in the next section!

APPROACHING HER (For Men)

Without going into all the details of science, here are the generally excepted “best strategies” that men can use to approach their partner.

Assume that, you are a little distance away from her, across the room/hotel etc.

Make eye contact: Maintain steady eye contact with her and hold it just a little bit too long.

Smile at her: Make sure your smile is friendly and respectful, not a dirty grin or a smirk.

Give her a nod: If she returns your gaze “within 45 seconds”, give her a nod. The nod reads, “I like you. May I talk to you?”

Move within her range: The final step is to move close enough to her to talk. Do this last step fast. If you do not, you will look very un-confident to her.

You might be wondering what that whole 45 seconds thing was about. You see, when you look at her and hold your eye contact for a few extra seconds, be prepared for her to look away. A woman has been trained to lower her eyes when a man looks at her. Remember: This does not mean she is not interested.

Research and analysis tells us, after looking away, if the woman looks up again within 45 seconds, she welcomes your attention. So, if she pretends to look at something else and looks back at you within 45 seconds, she likes you. Go to the next step. Give her a nod and move within her talking range.

Now the question is, what do you say when you approach her? Do you use a “pickup line” Something like, “Is your father a terrorist? Because you a bomb!”

PICKUP LINES ARE STRICTLY NOT ADVISABLE AS THIS IS 21^ST CENTURY. I HOPE YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN.

Your opening words should relate to the woman or the current situation. Ask her what time it is. Compliment her watch or her outfit. Ask her for directions. Inquire how she knows the host or hostess of the party. Whatever you say, she knows it’s just an excuse for you to talk to her. If she likes you, that’s fine with her. IF IT IS NOT LIKE THAT THEN JUST SHOO AWAY!

So be confident and just say something simple.

MAKE HIM APPROACH (For Women)

It is seen that most of the women never approach a man directly but they desire that the man should approach them.

Women, you may think the responsibility for the “pickup” is on the man. Surprisingly, though, research shows that women initiate two-thirds of all pickups.

Following are the ways of a sort of non-verbal invitation to a man:

Smile at him broadly

Throw him a short, darting glance

Dance alone to the music

Look straight at him and flip your hair

Keep a fixed gaze on him

Look at him, toss your head, and then look back

“Accidentally” brush up against him

Nod your head at him

Point to a chair and invite him to sit

Tilt your head and touch your exposed neck

Lick your lips during eye contact

Ask for his help with something

Tap something to get his attention

You may add up yours if you are talented enough!

Shy? Do you feel he’ll think you are too forward if you smile broadly at him in the crowd or “accidentally” brush up against him? He won’t, because, happily, the male ego takes over! Ten minutes later, he won’t even realize that he was not the one who made the initial contact. Moore, the researcher, said that men think they are making the first move when they are actually responding to women’s nonverbal signals. So, don’t be shy, cause he will not notice!

DO NOT FORGET THAT LOVE IS DELICATE!

Especially if you are a woman, once you get him to approach you and talk to you, you must make sure that you do not give him any body language signals that scare him away.

When he comes to talk to you, even if you look in some other direction and pretend to be bored, you may scare him. He might read this as, “she is not interested” and he might leave so that you do not reject him. So handle all this delicately. Once he is talking to you, use all those eye-contact tricks and give him your attention.

Men should do the same. Do not look away, or turn away form the woman. This will make her feel that she is being rejected and she might leave. So, basically handle all this delicately. You do not want to hurt anyone’s ego in the process.

Now, still the question remains, what do you say? What do you talk about?

The conversation spirit!

Conversation has very little to do with “talking”. Conversation is more about listing. Actually, it is not only about listening. It’s about understanding what your partner is trying to say and how he/she is saying it! Once you understand this, you can understand what your partner likes to talk about. If you understand this, you will be able to have a “beautiful conversation”.

Now, let us try to explain a few techniques that you can use. First one is called “cherry-picking”!

What is “cherry picking”?

You see, when people talk, they choose words and phrases, even in normal conversation, that tell you what they are interested in. You basically have to listen very closely to what people say, the phrases and words they use. If you listen carefully, you will be able to pick on the clues that people give when talking.

You then have to act on these clues and have to make the conversation interesting by talking to the person about what they are interested in…

Here is how it works. Let us assume that you have come into talking range of your partner. How did you get here? Well, you will have to use all the information provided on the previous pages to get here.

Now, here is an example:

Imagine that you get into a hotel and it is raining heavily outside. You say something like, “My God, it’s raining heavily outside!”

Your partner says, “Hmm, at least that’s good for the plants!”

You have to immediately pick your cherry here. Why would some one say, “good for the plants” if they have nothing to do with plants? You get a clue from this statement that your partner is interested in plants or has something to do with plants. So, your next question should be about “plants” because that is obviously a subject that interests him/her!

So, you might ask something like, “Oh, do you have a garden?” If he/she does have a garden, you hit gold! You have to then listen to the answer he/she gives and you have to respond to that! This way, you keep the conversation going!

Now, the problem is that your partner might not always give you a cherry easily. For example, consider this conversation:

You: “My God, it’s raining heavily outside?”

Partner: “Hmm…Yap!”

(Now, what you going to do? No cherry! So, you will have to try something else. For example…)

You: So, do you come here often?

Partner: No! Just got in so that I don’t get wet in the rain!

(Still no cherry! Well, you will just have to keep poking with something else!)

You: It’s poring really badly now!

Partner: Well, at least it’s good for the plants!

Woohoo! You got your cherry. So use it. Make the next question about “plants” and get your partner interested. The initial conversation will be a little boring but once you find your cherry you can make things interesting.

Few tips to help finding topics your partner will be interested in:

First: When your partner is talking, DO NOT interrupt! Let your partner talk. He/she is giving you useful information about what he/she is interested in. The more he/she talks the more he/she will tell you about what he/she is interested in. So, let your partner talk. You must listen! You must listen very carefully!

Besides that, if you do not interrupt your partner while he/she is talking and you do all the eye-contact tricks, this tells you partner that you are interested in what he/she has to say! This is a very good compliment that you can give your partner without saying anything. This will make your partner instantly like you. So, do not interrupt your partner, LISTEN ALL CAREFULLY AND WITHOUT INTERRUPTION!

Besides that, when talking, it is always better to ask “open ended questions”. These will get your partner to talk more. What are “open ended questions”? Open ended questions are basically questions whose answer cannot be given in just one or two words.

Suppose you ask someone, “Do you live in Delhi?” the person will probably respond saying “Yes” or “No”!

But, if you ask a question like, “Where exactly do you live?” the person is forced to say more than a few words. For example, the person might say, “Well, I live in…..” (Basically, a longer answer with more scope for cherry picking!)

So, you should try to ask open ended questions that have a long answer so that your partner will give you an elaborate answer and you can find out what is interesting to him/her. Never ask a “yes” or “no” type question. It will never give you any information about what the interests of the person are! You need to ask “open ended questions” and then listen intently for “cherries”!

So, that is what “conversation” is all about. Using the tricks we have mentioned above, you can keep a conversation going for hours! If you have a long interesting conversation the very first time you meet your partner, there is a good chance you can make your partner fall in love with you! However, when you are doing this very first conversation, make sure to maintain eye contact and use all the other eye-contact tricks from the previous sections.

Now, let us assume that you have had a very good first conversation with your partner. Now the question is, “How do you get your first date?”…

How to go about your first date?

How to get your first date?

Now, getting a date is a topic that is misunderstood by most people.

For men: You DO NOT have to say something like “Hey baby, would you go out with me?” etc. You have to keep the whole thing very subtle!

For women: You do not need to wait for the man to “ask you out”. You can ask him out. But again you must do it very subtly. If you do it right, he will not even notice that you asked him out. His ego will come in the way.

So, what is the best way to get your first date? Basically, you have to let your partner “earn” their first date. If they “earn” their first date, they will be proud of it. And even though it will be a first date, they will not realize it!

For example: Let your partner tell you how good she/he is at painting until you mention that you are looking for a painting to put up in your house and you would like to look at his/her collection. When you meet him/her to see the collection, that’s you first date. You can always extend the meeting by going out for lunch afterwards.

OR

Let your partner tell you about how much he/she likes rock music, before you tell him/her that you just happen to have 2 passes to the next rock show and your friend canceled on you!

You get the basic idea. In the conversation, your partner will mention details about themselves and what they find interesting. You have to pick up on one of these details and make it the reason to meet once more. It has to be a completely logical reason and should make sense. This will make your partner feel that you are genuinely interested in your partner and that he/she has earned the next meeting (i.e. date)

For women, this technique will not make it obvious that you are asking for a date. His ego will come in the way and he will convince himself that you are interested in what he does or what skill he has etc.

For men, use this technique a little later in your first conversation. Also make sure the reason to meet is a good logical reason. Women like to feel that you appreciate them and their skills. So do not make it obvious that you are just asking for a second date, she might not be that impressed by you.

For Women

One question that women wonder about is whether they should play “Hard to get!” Should you pretend that you are not really interested?

Well, if you ask a man, what kind of women he would prefer, one who plays “hard to get” or one who plays “easy to get”, most men will tell you the woman who plays “hard to get”. But unfortunately, even though this is what men say, this is not really what they feel.

As study (Playing Hard to Get: Understanding an Elusive Phenomenon) was conducted to answer this question… They found that men DO NOT like women who are hard to get.

On the other hand there is a particular kind of “hard to get” that men find very attractive.

Basically, a man is much more attracted to a woman if he knows that she is “hard to get” for other men but “easy to get” for him. This makes the women feel very attractive and special in the man’s eyes.

So, women, here is what you can do: Considering playing hard to get? Don’t . . . with him. When he asks you for a date, respond immediately and energetically, “Oh, I’d love to!” But then, later, subtly drop hints that you’re hard to get for other men. Be very subtle.

Now, the question is, what do you do on your first date?

You now already know the art of conversation. If you use it well on your first date, things should stay interesting. Here, we are going to just provide you with a few more scientifically proven tips to make your first date a even better experience…

When planning your first date, try to find out what your partner finds “arousing”. Something that your partner will be “excited” or “touched” by! Something that will generate “emotions” in your partner. If you do this, you will share an “experience” together. Firstly this will bond you to one another. Secondly, your partner will associate you with the “great feeling” that she got from the experience.

For women: The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach—and his wallet. When going out for food, suggest the name of a fabulous, charming, and inexpensive restaurant. He will appreciate it. Anyways, he probably does not want to spend big bucks on you for your very first date.

For men: If you’re dining out on your first date, take her to a restaurant with an atmosphere like you want to project: Elegant? Classy? Cool? Art? Atmosphere is important because she’ll transfer her feelings about the room to you.

Besides that, have a good time! I am sure you will know how to handle it from here on. If you have a good time with your partner, then do not worry too much. Things will go well and your relationship will progress. You already know a lot about conversation eye-contact etc. and all this will help you even further down the line…

I HOPE THESE WAYS MAY HELP YOU FIND YOUR BETTER HALF ONE DAY!

LET ME GIVE YOUR A DETAILED TARIKA OF SAVING YOUR WET CELLULAR DEVICES.BUT THE CONDITION IS THAT YOU HAVE GOT TO BE FAST ENOUGH.

To Begin With, there are two ways in which water or some liquid [hot or cold] can destroy your cellular phone!

First Possibility: If the phone is powered with the battery when it is wet, the water can “short-circuit” the phone! So, to solve this problem, you got to remove the battery, cut the power, and get rid of all the water. How to do this? Let’s see.

Second Possibility: If, the liquid is not just pure water. If it is sea water or saline water or any water that contains salts and minerals. If the liquid is a cup of coffee or tea. Basically, if the liquid contains any salts, sugars or minerals that will stay behind after the liquid has dried. In this case, the salts/sugars/minerals etc. that stay behind will “corrode” and “short-circuit” the circuits even after the liquid has been removed. How to solve this problem is given after the first one.

The Personal Repairing system is based on the liquid that has invaded into your cellular device. Let us start with the primary method (For PURE WATER)

Step 1: Get it out of the water as soon as possible
The fact is that cellular devices cellular devices are designed to handle small amounts of water. So, if the cellular device is just slightly wet, nothing much will happen to it. The problem comes when the cellular devices falls into a pool of water completely and the water gets into the cellular devices circuit board. Then the cellular devices get “short-circuited” and it goes off! So, the point is, if you can avoid the cellular devices from getting too wet, avoid it!

Step 2: Dismantle your phone as much as possible

Remove the battery AS FAST AS POSSIBLE! It is very likely that your cellular devices circuits have survived. But, if they are still powered by the battery, they will short-circuit when the moisture reaches them! So you have to cut the power. You must remove the battery from the device.

Remove the SIM card and the front panel and back panel and any other part of the phone that can be removed

Step 3: Dry everything that you can manually…

Use a tissue or a soft cloth to wipe every part of the phone you can wipe and remove all the water of the surface of all the pieces of the phone.

Step 4: Be Patient when you dry the cellular device

Now it is VERY important that you DO NOT try to put in the battery and switch on the phone! Let all the parts be dismantled and let the phone dry. This is a hard thing to do. You will have a constant temptation to put the battery back in “just to see” if the phone is okay. But, DO NOT do this! Leave the phone in pieces and let all the pieces dry.

Once of the best ways to dry your phone is to put your phone on the “heat vents” on the back of your computer of your TV! Just in case you are confused about what “heat vents” are, here is an image of heat vents behind the TV…

Heat vents of TV to dry your phone!

The amount of heat coming from the “heat vents” is just the perfect amount required to fix your phone! So place all the pieces of the phone carefully over the heat vents such that the wet insides of the phone are exposed to the heat.

Please Note: Heat other parts of the phone on the “heat vents”, but do not heat the phone’s battery! If you heat the battery, it is likely that the battery will leak and get spoil.

You Must Keep It On The Heat Vents For at least 5 days

Step 5: Test your phone

After 3 days of patient waiting and letting your phone dry, now you could try to put in the battery and all other parts and test your phone. If it works, hurray! If it does not, switch it off quickly and let it dry for some more time. Give it a day or two…if you have the patience

However: This way of saving your phone may not work if the phone got wet in a liquid containing salts, sugar or minerals etc. So, in case you dipped your phone in sea water, boring water, a cup of coffee or tea etc. you need to use the “alcohol” method…

The Chemical Procedure

If you think the liquid in which your phone has fallen is saline, or containing salts or sugars or minerals (like sea water, coffee etc.), using only the previous method will not do. You will need to do a little bit extra to save your phone!

How do you get rid of the salts, sugars and minerals?

After you dismantle the pieces of your wet phone and remove the battery, try to put the pieces as fast as possible in a bowl of “alcohol”! I know this seems a little scary. I know you are afraid of taking an already wet and damaged phone and putting it into alcohol, but trust me, it’s a good idea!

Why a chemical Like ALCOHOL?

Well, all the water/liquid in the phone (along with the salts, sugars and minerals) will dissolve in the alcohol. The alcohol is supposed to be “hygroscopic”. It means that the alcohol attracts water.

So now, once the phone is soaked in the alcohol, you should try to drain out as much alcohol as possible just by moving the phone around. Having done this, only little alcohol will remain on the insides of the phone. And this alcohol should dry up quite quickly, since alcohol evaporates at room temperature.

Note: If you feel that there is a lot of sugar clogged in the phone (from tea/coffee or some other drink.) you should get your self a bottle of “distilled” water which is easily available to you at the electrician’s shop. Let your phone soak in it. The sugars will likely dissolve in the “distilled” water and drip out of the phone.

Final Showdown: You could once again dry your phone in the “heat vents” of the computer or TV and wait for at least 2-3 days before you put in the battery and power up the phone.

Mostly, if you act fast enough, these methods will save your phone. But, if it does not, try taking it to your dealer.As a last resort, inform the company.

I HOPE THIS QUICK TARIKA WILL HELP YOU TO SAVE YOUR CELLULAR DEVICE.

THIS IS MY FIRST POST ON WORDPRESS.WELCOME TO MY WORLD.

THAT’S ABOUT IT FOR NOW.